I married my best friend on the front steps of town hall in the place I grew up. My parents and brother, along with my soon-to-be in laws, stood in front of us. We did a toast in the parking lot. We headed off, alone, to an intimate dinner and celebrated as husband and wife. It was the most beautiful day in my memory.
Months later, I stood in front of all 100 of my favorite people in my father’s backyard. We read hand written vows that unknowingly referenced the same sentiments. We used the same words and phrases that unspokenly personified our love story. We all cried. We all partied. Hard. It was the new most beautiful day in my memory, and many others’ too.
Long before the world turned upside down I had an in person client meeting. The bride, like I had, was planning a wedding with an air of “is this kind of ridiculous...?”. She asked what I had asked myself many times before we landed on the two separate day wedding plan - is this all worth it?! The money. The stress. The family tension. The details. The time. I actually got choked up when I told her that having all of your people from all of your walks of life together in one place is insanely special. While both of our stories are different than what most of my clients are going through now, they very well may end the same. You want to keep your wedding date. You want to start your life as a married couple. You’ve been waiting and planning and while it’s just a title and just a day it still feels so relevant. It still feels important.
I just want to say that it is important. Your love story has not been ripped at the seams. It definitely got thrown around a little, and maybe even got a few knicks on the cover. But the day you stand in front of anyone; everyone you know, your closest family, or just each other; and promise on forever... that day is still the best damn page in the book. And if you’re lucky, the next chapter has a bad ass party. And that party will be talked about for years to come and no one will care that you were already married when you showed up.